Political compatibility as a factor in marriage

Whether it is a blind dates where families of the couple or the matchmakers choose partners for them or the modern English-type wedding after having several dates and, possibly, living together, the aim is the same. It is to know if there are good chances of compatibility between the two partners to allow them to lead a long, quite if not Happy married life. There are a number of dimensions where compatibility matters, yet the three primary are certainly mental, emotional and physical compatibility for a marriage is after all, the coming together of mind, heart and soul. 
 
Financial parity is only slightly distant, but the partner with the higher income can contribute more towards family expenses and a poor person gets accustomed to the good life very fast. Religion is a big factor that may make two people review ways that can separate them as such most people switch to the religion of their would be spouse because of these reasons. There are other areas that are equally questionable like common intersts and cultural practices but somehow they appear to be controllable or at least bearable. A new type of incompatibility has developed in recent years and perhaps even more evident in the United States which might be described as “political incompatibility. ” It began as soon as Donald Trump became the president of the United States: and shockingly, surprisingly, it has cut the country in two. So, it is not just the difference in ideology, difference in politics, policies, and strategies of the Democrats and Republican; it is hate of everything that the other party represents and everyone who is associated with it. The appearance, intonation, the discourse and remarks, body language and even the hints of leaders are discussed and analyzed, and the information is shared in the social networks. 
 
Liberals have labeled Trump as a “fascist”, “racist”, “white supremacist”, “Hitler-type dictator”, “liar”, “misogynist”, “Xenophobic” and probably many more degrading adjectives. The opponents of Trump personally hate him to an extent that they have even come up with a new term, Trump Derangement Syndrome abbreviated as TDS. That is why the Trump supporters, also known as the MAGA peasant, has the same disdain for the Democrats. It refers to those people who believe that Democrats are ravaging the country by opening the southern border to enhance uncontrolled Illegal immigration, drug cartels, and human trafficking. They also accuse Joe Biden of making policies that led to the inflation rate to rise and that the USA is now in a position of weakness in the international scene. It is an irony that the two groups are practically fifty-fifty and any altercation between the two is an argument for the birds afternoons to gain the upper hand without compromise. 
 
I would like to think that even a simple discussion about Trump/Sanders and Biden/Obama triggers the inflammatory and aggressive instincts of propaganda. The two-party system has always existed in America and there has always been rivalry between partisan voters that was always tame most of the time accompanied by jokes. To any couple who are deeply in love with each other, I would like to recommend that the first thing that the two should talk about is politics. What is even impossible to imagine is that a man and a woman supporting the politics of Trump and Obama respectively can get married and live happily ever after. The political difference will raise its ugly head in almost all dayto-day domestic activities: Choosing a source of news, watching a news channel, reading newspapers, choosing a car (electric or gasoline), choosing a home (near the downtown area in a condominium or a large piece of land in the suburbs), choosing a school for children (public or private), religious practices, education of children- making them supporters of abortion and the LGBT culture, investment decisions and so much more. 
 
These are far more influenced by such decisions than all other incompatibilities of married life. Large political dissimilarities, in general, were not an issue for a married couple and this issue could even sometimes be addressed with jokes. Before moving to a different political party, Arnold Schwarzneggar was a Republican governor of California while his wife Maria Shriver came from the Kennedy family and most likely a democrat. One day, a reporter asked Arnold on how it was possible for him to maintain peace at his home. He laughed and said, “Remember that I took an oath of marriage, so I am bound to support my spouse with sicknesses and healthnesses, I am a Democrat and that is considered one of the sicknesses”. Everyone laughed. Those days are gone. Now there are conflicts in the political way resulting in separation and marriage issues and, at times, divorce. As in any other cases of incompatibility it is almost impossible to resolve the quarrel to the satisfaction of both individuals involved and in most cases the couples are emotionally committed to their respective sides to such an extent that conventional marriage counselling does not help. It is actually wiser not to start any type of a relationship if the other person has a political view different from yours. For myself, I have quite a few questions with regard to this problem. 
 
Though being an outsider, in most of the times I find that Trump sayings are quite rude at worst. However, that does not make all his policies bad or make him evil to the middle-aged, or to anyone for that matter. Of course, there is a fundamental difference in ideology that is driving the separation: was it right for America to be meant only for Americans or was it to be a paradise for the poor and the helpless from all the four corners of the world? But there is something else which is pushing this wedge. Some of my questions for the readers include the following: I have asked majority of the people I know who are anti Trump why they have so much hatred for him. The most often stated reason it is said he is mean, offensive, rude and a bragger when making comments about his opponents but other people as well. In American social interactions, there is an unspoken code of conduct: use relevant language which is proper in public, avoid interrupting, avoid using abusive language, avoid humiliating another individual in public, use the words “please” and “thank you” among other good manners; it is clear that Trump lacks manners in the above-listed ways. I have no idea whether this is his naturae It could be that he earned it from his professional exposure. He understood that passive diplomacy does not take us anywhere. 
 
For instance, let one imagine Jimmy Carter as probably the most amiable, humble- speaking president any country could ever have, yet people only remember him for his inability to rescue American hostages in Iran. Trump understood one thing that there is a desire here in this country among the silent majority for aggression in politics. This was also evident when he went into the TV show “Apprentice of being fired to realizing that thousands of people tuned in and appreciated his stringency especially when he uttered the famous line “You are fired”. The same can be said about his political negotiation techniques as well they are quite predictable in this aspect. People did not really anticipate for Trump to win against Hillary Clinton in the year 2016. As soon as Trump came to power and began to interfere with how things were actually done, following his ‘bull in a china shop’ policy, all the political insiders started getting worried that this may cause exposure of all sorts of frauds and backroom negotiations. Further compounding this problem for Trump, money from billionaire donors could not be poured into his causes — it is not the conventional modus operandi in the political sphere.

Therefore, a much larger anti-Trump coalition began to emerge which included not only the Democrats, but also many Republicans, or ‘Republicans in name only’ (RINOs), as well as foreign countries. Now there is the secondary rationale. Over the years, many news networks and mainstream newspapers began releasing are Trump stories and messages at any given time, whether or not they were real. As any self-respecting psychologist will state, it gets there eventually – this constant barrage of negative messaging – and becomes ingrained in one’s psyche and mentality: hello, TDS personality disorder. 
 
The same isn’t true of the right with Fox News; while Fox does lean quite far right it appears to be unclear on how far they should take the act and it’s consequences are less severe. I cannot tell the course that this hyper partisanship will take. It might not necessarily result in, say, a civil war but I do think that Trump has opened up a Pandora’s box in terms of the typical American manners of social interactions. This is why political compatibility is such a crucial factor, because otherwise you can end up in the situation that we have now. I would rather not see India go through a very intense Narendra Modi versus Rahul Gandhi type of situation in relationships.